Okay, so I know I am going to piss some people off with this, and I usually avoid doing so. However, I have seen this argument go round and round in the “gay romance” community (oh and don’t get me started on “gay romance” versus “M/M romance”), and I just wanted to get my thoughts down.
This started as a Facebook discussion after a dear friend had a friend state that “[they] can’t stand any M/M book written by a woman”. This is one of those topics that goes around the Gay fiction/MM Romance community with regularity. I usually just quietly say, “your loss” and go on… but maybe it is because I am in pain, or maybe I have just heard this one too many times… so hear goes.
I am going to get bitch slapped for this, but bear with me for a minute…
Here is what I don’t get. Love is Love (we are all agreed on that, right? If not then I am really confused). We are a community of people who do not look down on anyone because of whom they love, whom they choose to have in their beds (assuming consensual, etc.). We are a considered a minority, though growing daily. If you don’t want to read books written by het, bi or (gasp!) lesbian women (all of which are represented well in the genre), then don’t do it. There are plenty of fabulous male authors out there in the genre (I think you are missing out on some FABULOUS books, but what do I know, I am female). However, do you turn around and applaud those same women as allies of the community? You likely do. You likely thank your lucky stars there are straight people that understand that you should not be looked down on for your orientation. If you don’t then, you are just hurting your own cause.
I, for one, grew up in a very conservative small Texas town. The first time a friend came out to me, I honestly thought he was pranking me; I didn’t think it was a real thing (yes, sheltered… this was Texas in the… umm… 90s). To this day I am embarrassed by my initial reaction and want to find him and apologize, but alas I have lost touch with him and his high school boyfriend, who was also a friend (they lived in another town so we lost touch almost immediately). I didn’t really know what “gay” was until I got to college and it turned out two of my best (male) friends were dating (one of whom just got engaged! but that is beside the point). That time, I had a much “better” reaction. I didn’t honestly understand the “issues” until even later than that. I have long held a “do whatever is right for you” philosophy in life, and my love of MM fiction is an extension of that. That being said, I was never what you would call and “advocate” until I got involved in this wonderful community. M/M Romance did that. FEMALE M/M romance authors did that.
I think this genre (whether you call it Gay fiction, M/M romance, or something in between) is so important to the community as a whole. I think limiting it to only “gay male” authors is just hurting yourself. The genre has grown because of the females writing and reading. Every time you find a new reader in the genre, you find one more person who could potentially stand up with you against hate and discrimination. When you are standing there, trying to make yourself heard, you really shouldn’t care who the person standing beside you takes to their bed. Just as they support your right to take your chosen partner to bed. Each and every one of those female gay fiction authors is standing with you, and sometimes in front of you, screaming to the world that you are a human just as they are and you deserved to be treated as such.
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