I would like to thank Mia Kerick for taking the time to talk to us about her latest release from Harmony Ink Press, Us Three. There is also a giveaway, so stay tuned for that.
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A Letter to My Teenage Self – by Mia Kerick
A few days ago, I saw a status on Facebook that read: if you could give your teenage self TWO WORDS of advice, what would they be?
I also came across this same type of question as a blog post topic on writer Julie Glover’s site:
Glover reported, “The comments were fabulous, full of wisdom and wit. Some of my favorites included:
Lighten up. – Naomi Blackburn
Hang on. – Laura Gokey
Dream Bigger! – Cara Putman
Buy Apple. – Joan Rhine
Be yourself. – Inge Zijl-van Den Berg
David Arnold. – Vickie Arnold
Love yourself. – Joelene Coleman
Dot Com. – Daniel Stanton
Be happy. – J Keller Ford
Calm down. – Adrienne Jones
Now what? – John Vitz
Wake up! – Curtis B. Walker
Choose love. – Julie Glover (although my first response was plastic surgery–as a joke 😉 ).”
My immediate two-word response was that I should tell my teenage self, “chill out.” I have a tendency to get very wound up about…well, about everything. So, I think these two words would speak volumes in my life.
But if I had a whole letter to write, it would go something like this.
Dear Mia of 1980,
It is tough to know just where to start. Over the past thirty-plus years, I’ve learned a lot, yet what I have learned has forced me to realize that I still have a lot left to learn. And some of the wisdom I’ve gained, I have yet to put into practice in my life.
So, my words to you will start with general advice…and for you, this is a big one. (Remember, I’ve been there and done that, so you can trust me.) Young Mia, it is okay for you to let silence reign. You are under no obligation to relieve the world of awkward silences. When driving in a car with a date, hold your tongue and let him reveal himself. In a restaurant, eating dinner with your friends, let the other girls spill their secrets and just listen. You do not need to babble all of your inner feelings in order to set your companions at ease.
Now that we have that practical matter settled, I will now suggest we take a look at your tendency to suffer with guilt. Guilt has actually sidetracked you in many aspects of your life, both personal and professional. Not to say there aren’t some positive aspects of being a guilty person, as there are. Guilt keeps you on the straight and narrow. Knowing that you suffer from belated guilt encourages you to think before you act. And the fact that you endure aftereffects of guilt, show that you are a person with a conscience who evaluates all of her actions very carefully. But when guilt interferes with your mental health, when regret over an action causes you to experience depressed feelings or utter frustration, it is too much and needs to be put into perspective. Mia, if you can do this, you will lead a much happier life.
You also should consider your deep desire to categorize everything in your life as black or white…as good or evil. Life, as well as the people with whom you associate, possesses many shades of gray and the sooner you recognize this, the better for everyone involved.
Do not spend so much time worrying about what everyone else thinks. Concern yourself a bit more with figuring out what you think.
Do not take people for granted. Mia, I have lived long enough to know that when a special someone comes along, it is a rare and beautiful thing. Choose love, Mia. Value the people who are genuine and who are interested in you—do not allow them to slide away along with the tides of life. Sometimes life moves quickly, sometimes your priorities are elsewhere, but take the time and make the effort to treasure good friends and family, as opportunities to do this are few and far between.
With my final piece of advice, young Mia, I will go back to the two-word directive I saw on Facebook. Here it is: SLOW DOWN. You will find that life can pass you by in a heated rush. Stop the world—get off for a minute. Take a breath. Smell the roses. Do not allow the frenzy of getting things done steal from you the pleasure of being alive.
With sincerest hopes you will take my suggestions to heart,
Mia of 2014
From the Publisher:
In his junior year at a public high school, sweet, bright Casey Minton’s biggest worry isn’t being gay. Keeping from being too badly bullied by his so-called friends, a group of girls called the Queen Bees, is more pressing. Nate De Marco has no friends, his tough home life having taken its toll on his reputation, but he’s determined to get through high school. Zander Zane’s story is different: he’s popular, a jock. Zander knows he’s gay, but fellow students don’t, and he’d like to keep it that way.
No one expects much when these three are grouped together for a class project, yet in the process the boys discover each other’s talents and traits, and a new bond forms. But what if Nate, Zander, and Casey fall in love—each with the other and all three together? Not only gay but also a threesome, for them high school becomes infinitely more complicated and maybe even dangerous. To survive and keep their love alive, they must find their individual strengths and courage and stand together, honest and united. If they can do that, they might prevail against the Queen Bees and a student body frightened into silence—and even against their own crippling fears.
About the Author
Mia Kerick is the mother of four exceptional children—all named after saints—and five nonpedigreed cats—all named after the next best thing to saints, Boston Red Sox players. Her husband of twenty years has been told by many that he has the patience of Job, but don’t ask Mia about that, as it is a sensitive subject.
Mia focuses her stories on the emotional growth of troubled men and their relationships, and she believes that sex has a place in a love story, but not until it is firmly established as a love story. As a teen, Mia filled spiral-bound notebooks with romantic tales of tortured heroes (most of whom happened to strongly resemble lead vocalists of 1980s big-hair bands) and stuffed them under her mattress for safekeeping. She is thankful to Dreamspinner Press for providing her with an alternate place to stash her stories.
Mia is proud of her involvement with the Human Rights Campaign and cheers for each and every victory made in the name of marital equality. Her only major regret: never having taken typing or computer class in school, destining her to a life consumed with two-fingered pecking and constant prayer to the Gods of Technology.
My themes I always write about:
Sweetness. Unconventional love, tortured/damaged heroes- only love can save them.
- (50 by 60 inch) Us Three Book Cover Blanket
- (XL) Us Three Tee Shirt
- (XL) Us Three Tee Shirt
- Coffee Mug with Mia’s Logo and books images on it
- Teddy Bear with Mia’s logo
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.
Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,
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