Join us as Ethan Stone goes Outside the Margins.
When I met Demetri, my boyfriend, I wasn’t looking for a relationship. I’d been looking for almost a year and was tired of the freaks and psychos I’d been meeting. But somehow Demetri wiggled into my heart.
I can’t say exactly when I fell in love with him, though I definitely remember the first time we said the words. And the more time we spent together, the more I loved him.
If I were to write our story, would readers see and feel the emotions? Translating feelings into words on a page is difficult. Love isn’t a physical thing like a tree that someone can describe. But that’s exactly what romance authors do. I know I haven’t always been successful and I see it as the same reason I’d have trouble writing about my romance with Demetri.
When I write a story I can feel the chemistry between the characters and occasionally forget that the readers don’t have the same connection I do. In movies and television you can rely on the connection between the actors. The smoldering looks, the flirtatious gestures, they all add up to create the spark.
How do you make that same spark in a book? That’s not an easy question. Since I normally write mysteries I use the danger and the solving of the crime as a way for the guys to bond.
In real life I have never been in trouble with the law, or accused of the crime I didn’t commit, though recently I was interviewed by the FBI.
In real life I call my boyfriend an asshole and a dork and a brat, all in joking matter. Sometimes when he’s sleeping I squeeze his nostrils. In bed I’ve put a pillow over his head, pretending to smother him. If I wrote scenes like that would readers see the feelings involved? Those are just a few ways we tell each other how we feel.
That’s just one of many things that don’t translate into books. Another is insta-love, or love at first sight. Does it happen in real life? Absolutely. But making it work in fiction is difficult.
In reality Jose can look at Marcello across a crowded room and fall in love. However, an author cannot write: Jose gazed into Marcello’s eyes and knew he’d met the man he was going to spend the rest of his life with.
Showing love in reality and showing love in a book are two very distinct things and we all do it differently.
I’m curious about other people and what how they express their love in real life. Tell me in the comments, I’ll pick a favorite and reward them with an ebook of any book from my backlist.
May the force with you
~ Ethan J Stone
About Ethan Stone
Ethan Stone is an out and proud gay man. Which is fairly new in his life, the out part, not the gay part. He’s been queer his whole life, though he tried to deny it for years with a wonderful woman. The years in denial weren’t all bad, he has two amazing kids out of it. His son is a teenager and his daughter has made him a grandfather, three times over. A way too young grandfather.
Ethan recently returned to Oregon after almost a decade in Nevada. He no longer has a day job and is doing his best to make a living at this writing thing. If he can’t make a living, he at least wants to support his Mt. Dew and beef jerky addictions.
Readers can find Ethan online.
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