Join us as Daniel Kaine goes Outside the Margins.
There are a lot of things in my life I get annoyed about. A lot of it is very minor. Most stuff I’ll have a quick vent about, and then I shrug it off and get on with my life. That’s my way of coping. Release the frustration, and then move on. Holding on to negative emotions is just too draining.
However, there are several topics that irritate me so much that no amount of deep breaths and counting to ten million, nine hundred and seventy-four thousand, six hundred and fifty-eight is going to purge from my system. Every so often I come across one of these things, and it makes me want to punch the nearest wall.
Today I decided to have a quick scroll through my Tumblr feed, which is full of yummy pictures. Being a submissive, I do follow quite a few BDSM blogs. So there I am, flicking past some very nice pictures when I run into some comments that make my blood boil. They were about how submissives are weak.
I paused on the words for a moment, and simply blinked. Weak? Fuck them. It’s not like I let people walk all over me and abuse me however they want. Okay, so maybe that’s exactly how it is. But I CHOOSE to let them. And I don’t do it because of psychological issues stemming from my childhood, or parental issues. I do it because I enjoy it.
The act of being submissive requires an incredible amount of will power and self-control. We could let our safe word slip from our mouths at any point and everything would stop. The pain would ebb away, and control would be back in our hands. Figuratively speaking, of course, because we never lost it. In spite of the handcuffs and ropes, the chains and the duct tape, we were always the ones in control of the big red emergency stop button.
And yet, we don’t tell our masters to stop. We push past the pain. Even when our bodies are screaming at us, we soldier on and carry out our orders. Because we want to.
If a person wants to call me weak, I suggest they try being a submissive for just one hour. Let’s see how strong they are when the skin of their arse is glowing red and stinging with every smack of a paddle. Let’s see them endure some cock and ball torture, electro and clothes pegs. I’d like to see them realise how much strength it takes not to give in and scream ‘Uncle’, or whatever phrase they choose.
And if those same people think that because I submit that I must also be a pushover outside of the bedroom, then they’d better think again. I’m generally a laidback person, but don’t ever think that means I won’t bite if you push me.
A few years back I might have been a pushover. I didn’t have the confidence in myself to stand up and fight back. But, learning to be a submissive has changed me in such a profound way. I’ve learned so many things about myself in the process, but the most important lesson is this: I am strong.
~ Daniel Kaine
About Daniel Kaine
Daniel was born and raised in the Land of Rain, aka England, where he now lives with his four lovable furballs; Mik, Ash, Spidey and Flash. Originally trained as a Biology teacher, Daniel was unsure what to do with his life until he came across fanfiction for his favourite anime and decided to have a go at writing his own. To this day, he still cringes at the memory of the cheesy terminology he used.
When not writing, Daniel enjoys a variety of activities, including running, going to the gym, bondage, watching anime, and the mass-slaying of virtual monsters in the hopes of receiving epic loot. One day, he hopes to become a werepanther and invent chocolate that can be eaten all day without making you fat.
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