If you haven’t got something good to say…? ~ Clare London: Outside the Margins

Join us as Clare London goes Outside the Margins.

Clare London OtM

If you haven’t got something good to say…?

It’s an old saying, but as so many of them do, it holds more than a grain of sense. I was always told to imagine how I’d feel if what I was saying was directed AT me rather than BY me. An author friend spoke recently about the balance of positive and negatively phrased comments on her Facebook page, and how they can either motivate or depress her day. I think I’d always rather uplift a person’s day, wouldn’t you? Even if you don’t agree with something – and feel you must comment – there are ways to express yourself that are much more articulate and persuasive than diatribe.

This is, of course, not the same thing as restricting free speech. Far from it! Everyone has that right, as they have the right to form their own opinions and desires, and even to hold prejudices. I don’t think there’d be a single one of us who could say they didn’t have preferences in life, whether it’s for looks, tastes, political leanings, spiritual beliefs – or even flavours of ice cream!

It’s in the expression of these that things can go awry. Any opinion or preference expressed cruelly or disrespectfully is bound for disaster, one way or another. At one extreme, it can lead to violence and repression and hideous discrimination. It can also strike in daily life, with personal abuse and hurt. Everyone is made up of layers of personality, upbringing and experience. It’s so much more rewarding to add something good to those layers, whether it’s genuine praise, or criticism offered in a constructive way. And no, I’m not talking about book reviews here LOL, just general interaction on the net.

It’s a twist on the “don’t shoot the messenger”, and is more “be a respectful messenger”! Showing off or trying to score points is never pretty, and that’s what my new release is all about.

DEAR ALEX is about a magazine journalist Alex, who’s gradually moved on from serious journalism to a more tabloid style. He’s running the Problem page in “Meant for Men”, which he started as a place for gay men to visit for sympathetic advice. But over the years, he’s allowed himself to lapse into a sharper, more mocking style. The problems have become nothing more than an opportunity for a joke. He’s begun to wallow in his own style as entertainment, rather than listening to the feelings and context behind the scenes of the genuine letters.

His colleague and ex-lover Robbie feels differently, though. Robbie’s honest but sensitive at the same time, and he’s still campaigning on behalf of the letter writers. During the course of the story, Alex realises quite how far he and Robbie have grown apart, and how the letters illustrate this. But will Alex be able to change? And will Robbie wait around until he does? You’ll have to read it to find out :).

Thanks as always, for reading 🙂
Please insert after Author links

About

DearAlex_250 Title: Dear Alex
Publisher: Self Published
Genre: Contemporary, M/M Romance

Alex Palmer writes the “Dear Alex” Agony Uncle column for Meant for Men – a magazine aimed at gay men’s life and issues. What started as a genuine and ground-breaking feature has become a snark fest, due to Alex’s boredom and personal cynicism. His respect for the correspondents has dwindled away in direct relation to his own self-respect as a journalist. He no longer believes in his readers’ search for a soulmate, or in his own column’s headline: “Is He Really the One?”

In the early days, Robbie Cooke was Alex’s co-presenter on the magazine. They’d been lovers, too. But unlike Alex, Robbie still sees the anguish and need behind the letters they receive. He wants to help the writers, rather than turn their situations into journalistic entertainment. He and Alex may still have to work together, but their fundamental disagreement on how to run the column tore them apart as romantic partners.

Excess drinking and a succession of casual lovers is wearing Alex out, yet he’s in denial. He’s convinced he doesn’t need “Dear Alex” to set him straight about what’s wrong with his life. But when he’s alerted to the fact that Robbie may be in danger, he realises that what he’s really missing is his ex-lover’s care, compassion and love. The problem is, by the time Alex is desperate to make amends, Robbie may have already moved on.

Self Published
Amazon US
Amazon UK
Amazon CA
All Romance eBooks
Barnes & Noble

~ Clare London

About Clare London

Clare took the pen name London from the city where she lives, loves, and writes. A lone, brave female in a frenetic, testosterone-fuelled family home, she juggles her writing with the weekly wash, waiting for the far distant day when she can afford to give up her day job as an accountant. She’s written in many genres and across many settings, with novels and short stories published both online and in print. She says she likes variety in her writing while friends say she’s just fickle, but as long as both theories spawn good fiction, she’s happy. Most of her work features male/male romance and drama with a healthy serving of physical passion, as she enjoys both reading and writing about strong, sympathetic and sexy characters.

Clare currently has several novels sulking at that tricky chapter 3 stage and plenty of other projects in mind . . . she just has to find out where she left them in that frenetic, testosterone-fuelled family home.

All the details and free fiction are available at her website. Visit her today and say hello!

Website: http://www.clarelondon.com

Blog: http://clarelondon.livejournal.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/clarelondon

Facebook chat: https://www.facebook.com/groups/clarelondoncalling/

Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/clare_london

Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/clarelondon
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/author/clarelondon

 

Farewell Giveaway
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.

Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,

Brandilyn
This post may contain affiliate links.
Prism Book Alliance® assumes no liability for the ownership of photos or content used in guest posts and interviews.  The post author assumes all responsibility and liability for this content.

10 thoughts on “If you haven’t got something good to say…? ~ Clare London: Outside the Margins

  1. Damn it Clare, another common sense post, and yet another book to add to my TBR list – still think you and Sue have a wonderful career waiting in Ice Cream retail if you ever change direction!

  2. Very well said. If people would just think before they started typing a lot of pain would be avoided. On a different note, I love the sound of your book. It has been added to my TBR list 🙂

  3. I hate it when I get caught up in a stupid point scoring situation at work and certainly don’t want to get involved in point scoring out of work. I do suffer from attacks of foot-in-mouth disease and probably get more upset about it than the person I’ve offended once I realise what I’ve said. We should all work at being more polite, especially on line where things are so often distorted by accident. I’m going to keep trying to think before I speak and I think I’ll take Alex and Robbie with me.

    • Thanks Mara :). It’s a really good point that comments online can so often be misunderstood or distorted, as you say. It’s bloomin’ tricky to get the tone right when you’re not face2face.

Leave a Reply