An Open Letter To My Younger Self ~ Andrew Q Gordon: Outside the Margins

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Andrew_Q_Gordon_OtMAn Open Letter To My Younger Self

As I approach another birthday, I’m left to wonder about my life. I’ve got a wonderful husband (who’d have thought I could even have a husband 25 years ago), daughter, good job, close family and friends, in short, I’m very content. But like many of us, I still think I made mistakes when I was younger and foolish. So here goes, things to tell my younger self about life and my decisions.

Pay attention to the news – there is this thing called AIDs. I know you’ll personally pay attention and be careful, but not all your friends will be so diligent. Try harder to make sure they understand the risks. Tell them it’s not just important, it’s imperative they be safe. Yes it will be awkward and they’ll look at you like your crazy, but better that than the friends you’ll lose and the funeral’s you’ll attend.

This one is a bit less certain, but follow your dreams, not someone else’s. If you follow the path others set for you, it will work out fine, but it won’t be what you wanted. Cliché as it is, life is short. You won’t realize it fully until you’re older and you have a child. (yes you will have one of those, just be patient) If you blink you’ll miss things. Don’t be afraid to take some risks. Be smart and don’t take stupid ones—see the previous piece of advice—but don’t be afraid of the risks. You’re smart and work hard, things will work out.

Work harder to stay in shape. Yes, we all know this, but there will come a time when you’ll let life and work derail you. Trust me, it will be hard to get it back. You can, and you will, but it wasn’t until your back wouldn’t stop hurting that you’ll make the decision that looking fit wasn’t the same as being fit. Run more, lift more and play more.

Save more money. You know all those nights you went out and ‘just had a few’ with your friends? Skip every other one and save the money. You’re friends will understand, and you’ll be glad you did in 25 years. Those extra clothes you ‘needed’? You don’t. Save that money too. You’ll figure it out after a time, but until you decide you want to move and need to save up. Then you’ll see you didn’t need to go out all the time or buy everything you ‘wanted.’ Those extra years will make a big difference in time.

Here’s something you should buy with the money you saved – Microsoft, Intel, Apple, Google and Amazon. DON’T buy AOL. Yes I know it’s all the rage. Trust me, I know. Oh and if make money from my advice and a guy named Bernie Maddoff says he has this great way to make money and he should know cause he used to run the NASDAQ Stock exchange? Tell him thanks but no. You’re doing fine.

Don’t give up your writing. Yes, you will, for reasons you won’t understand. You made a great start during college, them dropped it to go to law school. Find a way to keep with it. There’s this thing that’s coming, it’s called the internet. You know it vaguely and the first applications will make it hard to see what’s really coming, but trust me, things will change. Be at the front of the line when it happens. Wait a few years, and it will be so much harder. Be the mover and shaker, not the one all shook up.

You’ve got terrible taste in sports teams. The Mets will disappoint you forever and ever, (well one year they do win the World Series, but that only raises your expectations.) Think about finding another team. And in 2007, consider taking a year off. Just sayin. Same with the Jets. Yes I know you grew up with them, but they’re going to crush you every year running.

Be cautious with telling folks who you really are, but tell them. Your family and good friends won’t care. Yes that sounds crazy, but again, I know what I’m talking about. Also, remember that bit about being ahead of the curve? Do that here as well, but be careful. The world will change, but it will take time. But don’t wait for it, help it along. Like I said, life is short, you only get one go round.

Last, on February 18, 1995, someone is going to ask you to go out to the bar–go. I know I said skip a few, and you should, but don’t skip this one. Really, just don’t It won’t seem like it at the time, at least not right away, but when you meet him, that’s the one. But you won’t need me to tell you that.

Oh and congrats on the birth of your daughter. She’s beautiful and you will learn all over again what it means to be in love. Treasure it. It will be wonderful.



unnamed Title: The Eye and The Arm
Publisher: DSP Publications
Genre: Fantasy

Available April 14, 2015.

After defeating Meglar at Belsport, Farrell returns to Haven to recover from his injuries, but Khron, the god of war, has other ideas. He gives Farrell a new mission: free the survivors of the ancient dwarf realm of Trellham from their three-thousand-year banishment. To fulfill Khron’s near impossible task, Farrell will need the help of his distance ancestor, the legendary wizard Kel. But Kel has been dead for a thousand years.

Farrell finds information hinting that Kel is alive, so he moves his search to Dumbarten, Kel’s birthplace. To reach Dumbarten unannounced, Farrell and Miceral disguise themselves as mercenaries on board a merchant vessel. Their journey is disrupted when pirates attack their ship. While attempting to subdue the attack, Farrell is struck down by one of Meglar’s minions.

Unconscious and trapped in his own mind, Farrell’s only chance for survival rests with Miceral and the peregrine king Rothdin entering his thoughts and helping him sort fact from illusion. To reach Farrell, they will need to rely on an untested spell from one of Kel’s spellbooks. If they succeed, Miceral can guide Farrell home safely. If not, Farrell will destroy not only himself, but Miceral, Rothdin, and everyone around him.

Just us Tomorrow here on Prism Book Alliance for a first look at the new cover.

~ Andrew Q Gordon

About Andrew Q Gordon

Andrew Q. Gordon wrote his first story back when yellow legal pads, ball point pens were common and a Smith Corona correctable typewriter was considered high tech. Adapting with technology, he now takes his MacBook somewhere quiet when he wants to write.
He currently lives in the Washington, D.C. area with his partner of eighteen years, their young daughter and dog.  In addition to dodging some very self-important D.C. ‘insiders’, Andrew uses his commute to catch up on his reading. When not working or writing, he enjoys soccer, high fantasy, baseball and seeing how much coffee he can drink in a day.

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8 thoughts on “An Open Letter To My Younger Self ~ Andrew Q Gordon: Outside the Margins

    • Thanks JP! I could’ve written way more but I don’t want to overwhelm myself with too much advice. I’m not the type to take the advice of others – even from my older and ‘wiser’ self. 😉

  1. I. Love. THIS lol:

    “Here’s something you should buy with the money you saved – Microsoft, Intel, Apple, Google and Amazon. DON’T buy AOL. Yes I know it’s all the rage. Trust me, I know. Oh and if make money from my advice and a guy named Bernie Maddoff says he has this great way to make money and he should know cause he used to run the NASDAQ Stock exchange? Tell him thanks but no. You’re doing fine.”

    And, sigh, being a Clevelander born and raised, I sooooo feel you on the sports thing. Truly.

    But on the serious side, there’s some lovely, with some bittersweet, and lots of hopeful in what you say. Life is short. I say that all the time. It’s also always a challenge to remember that and do the very things you want to tell that younger self.

    Thank you for sharing this. I think a lot of us feel the same. 🙂

  2. Lirtle,

    Wouldn’t it be awesome to give our younger selves stock advice? I mean – instant retirement.

    Ah Cleveland – they know the pain too. Sigh.

    I feel we (me included) spend so much time living to working instead of working to live. I grow frustrated with my ‘old’ self all the time. Maybe this will help.

    Thanks for commenting.

  3. Oh my goodness. This brought tears to my eyes, then made me giggle, then mad me cry again. It was beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

  4. What a beautiful post. I love that you made suggestions but weren’t too hard on yourself. It made me smile and tear up just a bit. Thank you for sharing this with us.

    • Thanks Allison, I appreciate you reading. I tried not to be too harsh, because, hey I’m in a good place so how bad could I have done? But there are things -well, we all have a few regrets, is that what Frank Sinatra said – “regrets, I’ve had a few.” 🙂

      Thanks again.


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