There will be Sex ~ Posy Roberts: Outside the Margins

Join us as Posy Roberts goes Outside the Margins.


There will be Sex

When I started writing fiction after decades of writing little beyond research papers, I jumped in feet first. I was fearless, in part, because it was so freeing to shed the restraints of the highly organized thesis with all its unmovable parts.

My creative writing started with no plan. I was a pantser, through and through. I could start my story at the end or the middle, and I could write about all of life’s experiences, not just those deemed PG-13.

It was a fantastic experience to write for the sake of writing, to write entirely for myself, and to give minimal thought for my audience. As I got more readers, I realized I wasn’t writing in a bubble. Soon I wrote stories based on prompts, and I had readers who asked if x or y could happen in my story. One person even demanded I change my story because a favorite character got seriously injured. Throughout, I still wrote my story.

A few years later, I became a published author. I had talented editors who weighed in, teaching me a tremendous deal about crafting better stories. I networked with writers, readers, and reviewers. I was turned on to various writing columns.

I came across lists: dos and don’ts, personal opinions, and rants, often stemming from reader reaction.

Where I didn’t take my audience’s desires to heart as a writer of free stories, I didn’t think I could ignore such things when I was trying to sell books. So I read and listened.

And got stuck. I stopped writing.

There were so many new rules floating through my head, there was no room for my characters anymore. I was too worried about how my writing would be received. I felt like I was back in graduate school, staring at that stupid outline for my masters’ thesis with no passion to write. The creativity was stripped from the experience. The joy, the excitement was swallowed up by obscure rules.

I had to build shields to these rules so my creative side could flourish again.

When I got back to writing, the first story that called me was one where there is a lot of sex because of the setting of the story. But that’s goes against the rules….

Screw this!

I write romance. I write about men who fall in love, who have sex, who use sex as a tool to communicate when words fail them, who use sex as a means to make up or fight or release stress or feel closer to the one they love. If people don’t want to read the sex scenes, they have the option to turn the page, but I’m not going to Clean Reader my books for those who prefer not to read about sex.

Yes, there will be sex in my books, because there is sex in life. And I’m a realist.

I came to this genre because finally I found a place where sex wasn’t hushed up or pushed behind a curtain, turned into something shameful. And equality was celebrated. There didn’t need to be a coy, submissive partner pretending to dislike sex, like in MF Romance. In MM Romance sex is part of life, not a Puritanical thing.

I love reading about men communicating with their partners in such a physical way.

And I know I’m not alone. No need to be shy about that.

So I’m going to write sex scenes that advance the plot or fit the character. Occasionally I’m going to write in first person or toss in a flashback, despite people bitching about it. I’m going to write deeply flawed characters and men with actual emotions, who actually shed tears. I’m going to write about drag queens and social issues and angst and fluff.

I have to be true to my characters, and I have to be true to myself, no matter what “rules” I break. Because in the end, if I’m not happy with what I release into the world, what’s the point in having it out there? And if I’m not happy, characters stop talking to me.


flare4b Title: Flare – North Star book 3
Publisher: Dreamspinner Press
Genre: Contemporary, M/M Romance

Hugo Thorson and Kevin Magnus are learning to live again after the death of Kevin’s wife, Erin. They’re doing everything they can to make a stable home for Kevin’s kids, but that stability is threatened when Kevin is served legal documents: Erin’s parents want custody of Brooke and Finn.

Meanwhile, Hugo is offered several acting jobs; to encourage him to take them, Kevin hires a nanny who is very hands-on with the kids. But Hugo feels distanced from his new family, so he makes the decision to leave his eclectic neighborhood and moves in with Kevin. He quickly finds he has a hard time fitting in with the suburbanites, and Kevin’s passive-aggressive “friends” make Hugo feel anything but welcome. Yet he keeps his concerns a secret and tries to take it all in stride.

When Brooke is bullied about having two dads, Hugo realizes his mere presence might be doing more harm than good. The stress will force him to make a choice: does he stay and fight for the family he loves, or does he walk away to let them live in peace?

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~ Posy Roberts

About Posy Roberts

Posy Roberts writes about romantic male love. Whether her characters are family men, drag queens, or lonely men searching for connections, they all find a home in her stories.

Posy is married to a man who makes sure she doesn’t forget to eat or sleep; her daughter, a budding author and dedicated Whovian, helps her come up with character names. When Posy’s not writing, she enjoys crafting, hiking, and singing spontaneously about the mundane, just to make normal seem more interesting.

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7 thoughts on “There will be Sex ~ Posy Roberts: Outside the Margins

  1. I really relate to this article. When I wrote my first book it took me a few years writing around work and I didn’t follow any rules. With help from my editor I learned a great deal and I sought out writing tips. But now I have the problem of thinking too much while I write instead of just writing. I try to tell myself I can change all the lookings and remove the that’s after the first draft, not to mention the POV changes and the IBPs. Hopefully, I’ll get to the stage when I’m not second guessing every word and, like you, writing what I want to write.

    • Getting in that zone where I can ignore those things that I know I need to change, is what I strive for, but it’s not always easy. I do a heck of a lot of word massaging while I edit, so going in knowing that is helpful now.

  2. Your books aren’t overloaded with sex, it’s there because it belongs and the scenes don’t take up half the book and I appreciate that. My only disappointment with this post is that I was hoping for a new book announcement since I’ve read all your work. Guess I’ll go moan and groan for a while now. 🙁

    • Andrea, my manuscript is in my editors hands right now. I’m hoping to have something out in May. I already have the very pretty cover. 😀

  3. Any chance this series will be made into audio one day? I’m in a listen mode at the moment :p
    (the moment has lasted about 18 months so far…)

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