A Little Help From My Friends ~ Outside the Margins with Shae Connor

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Shae Conor

I had to make a difficult decision a couple of weeks ago. Because of how busy I’ve been lately, with no end in sight, I had to bow out of attending Animazement in Raleigh this weekend. It would’ve been my first trip to the convention, but that had little to do with my reasons for going. I was going to visit friends.

My plans were to stay with Shira Anthony, who had spearheaded getting the group together, and share her vendor table in the marketplace with Sarah Madison, Venona Keyes, and Andrew Q. Gordon. I’m so upset that I’m not going to be able to see them. I still haven’t had a chance to give Sarah a hug in person. I saw Venona and Andrew in March, but it’s never often enough for two of my favorite people. And because our schedules don’t line up otherwise, I likely won’t get to see Shira at all this year, and that’s just totally unfair.

(The only reason I’m not devastated to miss seeing another good friend who’ll be there, William Cooper, is that he’ll be in Atlanta in a couple of months.)

As I write this, I’ve just finished with Outlantacon, where I got to see some more of my favorite people, including my butt-thology co-authors Kage Alan, T.C. Blue, Ally Blue, Kiernan Kelly (and her hubby), and Jevocas Green. (Plus my roomie, J.P. Barnaby.) We were missing one of our cohorts, Eden Winters, and we felt her absence the whole weekend. But it’s hard to quantify exactly why spending time with people like these is such a big thing for me.

We talk a lot in the gay romance world about finding our “tribe,” and there’s a real kernel of truth there. Having people who understand you, who get your jokes, who tease you because they love you—that kind of unconditional love is priceless. Yes, they might pull you aside and give you a come-to-Jesus talk, but you can rest assured that if it comes to that, you needed it.

But meeting up with friends like these gives me boosts in so many different ways. It uplifts me because we laugh and joke and have a good time. It reminds me that people truly like me, that they love to spend time with me. It relaxes me because I can be myself and not worry about what other people are thinking. (Not even those people over there, because it doesn’t matter what strangers think when you’re surrounded by friends.) And it engages me because these are other writers, so they understand the things I’m dealing with as an author.

So while I’m spending this weekend getting caught up, I’m also missing out on a great opportunity to recharge my batteries. Unfortunately, sometimes life is about making those trade-offs. What I need to get done at home this weekend outweighed my desire to spend the time with my friends.

But that doesn’t stop me from really, really wishing I was spending time with my friends.

~Shae Connor


About Shae Connor

Shae Connor lives in Atlanta, where she’s a lackadaisical government worker for a living and writes sweet-hot romance under the cover of night. She’s been making things up for as long as she can remember, but it took her a long time to figure out that maybe she should try writing them down. She’s conned several companies into publishing her work and adds a new notch on her bedpost each time another story is unleashed onto an unsuspecting universe.

A member of the Romance Writers of America and the Rainbow Writers chapter, Shae was first published in 2010 and has a lineup of short stories, novellas, and novels available from Dreamspinner Press, Wilde City Press, MLR Press, and Amber Allure.

Shae is part Jersey, part Irish, and all Southern, which explains why she never shuts up. When she’s not chained to her laptop, she enjoys cooking, traveling, watching baseball, and reading voraciously, and she’s an annual volunteer for the Dragon Con on-site publication, the Daily Dragon. You can find her hanging out on Twitter most any time @shaeconnor, but for the more direct route, you can email her at shaeconnorwrites@gmail.com or visit her website at shaeconnorwrites.com. .

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5 thoughts on “A Little Help From My Friends ~ Outside the Margins with Shae Connor

  1. I hear you, Shae. I get together with Jay Northcote and Annabelle Jacobs as often as I can for exactly the same reasons. I hope you soon get to see the friends you missed this time around. I bet they missed you too!

  2. I missed you too Shae! I hope we’ll have some time together this year anyhow. I totally feel the same – it’s always such a pleasure to spend time with you! Big hugs!

  3. I had to cancel my plans to attend Animazement myself, and am perilously close to having to cancel my attendance at Rainbow Con, too, so I know how you feel.

    The biggest disappointment is missing out on the ability to meet in person the people you only know online–and yet when you see them for the first time, you know exactly who they are and you fall into chattering as though you’ve know each other your entire lives. 🙂

    We’re just going to have to figure out how to meet up somehow!

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