Hop Against Homophobia, Bi- and Transphobia, with Giveaway

Beverley from Prism Book Alliance® has written something for today’s International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia…

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International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia (May 17th) (Click for home page)

Sometimes I think I know the spaces of my partner’s body better than I know anything else about him.
I know how to fit myself to his every curve and angle so that every part of me isn’t touching every part of him.
I know where to put my hand so that my little finger aligns with his, close enough that I half-imagine I can feel the heat of his skin mingling with the heat of mine. But not so close it looks gay, you understand.

I know how to make a thousand secret symmetries between us, my shoulder to his shoulder, the angles of our elbows and forearms, the distance between my thigh and his, the turn of a wrist, the brush of a knee.Sometimes I think this is all gaydar really is: intense awareness of negative space, an ability to read between the lines. If you want to be able to recognise queer couples, all you have to do is watch for the innumerable, significant ways they don’t touch.

Because this is how we live in public. In lacunae. Endlessly calculating these tactile geometries.

And, for the record, I don’t want to dry hump my partner in Trafalgar Square. I, honestly, just want to hold his hand sometimes. Smooth down the collar of his coat in winter. Stand too close when we say goodbye.

I don’t want to live on the brink of some helpless betrayal that transforms these everyday banalities into someone else’s business.

But here’s the thing: I live in a relatively cosmopolitan, relatively liberal town in the industrialised west. I’m not illegal. The likelihood of actual physical violence is incredibly small. The worst I’m probably going to suffer are some jeers and catcalls, a handful of words that have close to lost their edges for me, some tired jokes based on some false assumptions about what it means to be who I am.

So what I am right now—what I have been all my life—is a coward. If I want to hold my partner’s hand, I should damn well hold his hand, and stop whining about it. The way to effect change, after all, is to live it. But, hilarious as it may sound considering I do occasionally—in some very small and unimportant way—make myself a talking point on the internet, I’m private, and taking my partner’s hand is always, inevitably, undeniably, inescapably, a political act. And sometimes I am simply too weary and too small to live my politics.

I just want be quietly, unimportantly, inconspicuously in love.Alexis Hall photo

This is an excerpt from a post by Alexis Hall entitled someday I will be kissed in the pouring rain. Do read the full post, which is so very beautiful and thought provoking… 

Alexis’ post shows us how wearying it is, when acting as you wish is a political act, when sharing small intimate moments – like straightening a lover’s collar – risks mindless jeers, or name calling. How all anyone wants is that their love, if noticed at all, is just noted, as a good thing for humanity in general.

Whilst thinking of something to write for this post about International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia, – it struck me that most ‘International Days’ are ‘for something’. International Women’s Day, International Workers’ Day even International Day for Nude Gardening!

Maybe we are going about this the wrong way – It wasn’t International Day Against War, but International Day for Peace. Instead of being anti-bullying I support International Day for Consideration for Others (ok that could be phrased better).

So on this the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia – I propose to call it ‘The International Day of Acceptance’.

For this day isn’t just about freedom to love who you wish – it is about accepting people for who they are – not who you think they should be.

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48 thoughts on “Hop Against Homophobia, Bi- and Transphobia, with Giveaway

  1. A great excerpt and I shall be off to read it all.
    And I like your thinking here, yes it would be great to celebrate the positive side of this particular coin too

  2. Thank you for sharing that excerpt. It was lovely, thought provoking, and reminded me that society has come a long way, but still has a ways to go.

    And I love your idea of “The International Day of Acceptance.” I hope that in the future that will be every day.

    • It really is parisfanca – but I think it isn’t just feeling threatened – there is so much archaic religious outrage in certain countries that people don’t even question whether they are acting rightly or wrongly they just react.

  3. I like your idea of International Day of Acceptance. I wish everyone would adhere to Live and Let Live & Love is Love. No matter what we are all human. We all laugh, cry and hurt. If we all got along think of what we could accomplish.

  4. Thank you for sharing the excerpt. It’s such a lovely, heartfelt, thought-provoking post. I like it being a day of acceptance. I think every day should be one.

    • It would be wonderful if it were Antonia. The full post from which the excerpt came is one of my favourite from any blog.

  5. I like the idea of a Day of Acceptance 🙂 Thanks for posting the excerpt from the beautiful post by Alexis & the link to the whole piece. That post is tremendously moving & one of my favorites of his 🙂

    • It’s one of my favourites too, Pam. I like so much that he writes but I think this one was inspired and needs to be resurrected every so often. Here’s to acceptance!

  6. I loved this post. The International Day of Acceptance is great. We pay money for songs about ending hunger. we donate to all kinds of thing. Why can we get together in this way for all of to be able to live as we are. Weather we a gay, straight, bi or even pansexual. What happens behind closed door is up to the people in that room.

  7. I like your idea to change the name. The post was a great read and Alexis Hall’s post is amazing, thank you for sharing that link. I have never thought how just the idea of holding hands might seem like a political statement to some. I can only hope and work towards a time when that won’t be an issue and people can just be themselves.

  8. Wonderful excerpt and so beautiful we have come along way but we need to keep pushing forward.

    ShirleyAnn(at)speakman40(dot)freeserve(dot)co(dot)uk

  9. I loved Alexis Hall’s post!. It was so beautifully written. Thank you a great post about acceptance.

  10. Thank you for sharing Alexis’ beautiful post, wonderfully written, very thought provoking. I love the idea of an International Day of Acceptance.

  11. Great Post! Thanks so much for sharing and being a part of the hop!
    Social Media like everything else has it’s pros & cons. :/ Great post! Thanks for taking the time to share and be a part of the hop! Cheers ~Rissa~ raynman1979 (at) yahoo (dot) com

  12. I always learn so much on this hop each year–the stories can be heartrending, but are always inspiring!

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  13. Thanks for participating in this important blog hop and help to spread the word and raise some awareness, it’s really sad that even in this day such a blog hop is necessary and let’s hope it won’t be in the near future.

  14. Yes,the post is thought-provoking…but I don’t know how holding your partner’s hand is a political statement or act. So,I choose to focus on this sentence:
    “I just want be quietly, unimportantly, inconspicuously in love.” … Because that’s the point,right? For two guys or two girls holding hands or kissing to be nothing out of ordinary,because “…when you strip it all back to the simplest truths: the pain of loss, the joy in being together, that red hot filthy need to be unashamed and heart-deep naked with another person, that’s just love.”

    Yeah,this post of his is really something…and although there’s sadness to it, I think that we’re getting better,that people are more understanding,especially the young people and,who knows,maybe 100 or even 50 years from now,nobody will look twice at two boys,or girls holding hands…

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