Beverley from Prism Book Alliance® has written something for today’s International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia…
International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia (May 17th) (Click for home page)
Sometimes I think I know the spaces of my partner’s body better than I know anything else about him.
I know how to fit myself to his every curve and angle so that every part of me isn’t touching every part of him.
I know where to put my hand so that my little finger aligns with his, close enough that I half-imagine I can feel the heat of his skin mingling with the heat of mine. But not so close it looks gay, you understand.
I know how to make a thousand secret symmetries between us, my shoulder to his shoulder, the angles of our elbows and forearms, the distance between my thigh and his, the turn of a wrist, the brush of a knee.Sometimes I think this is all gaydar really is: intense awareness of negative space, an ability to read between the lines. If you want to be able to recognise queer couples, all you have to do is watch for the innumerable, significant ways they don’t touch.
Because this is how we live in public. In lacunae. Endlessly calculating these tactile geometries.
And, for the record, I don’t want to dry hump my partner in Trafalgar Square. I, honestly, just want to hold his hand sometimes. Smooth down the collar of his coat in winter. Stand too close when we say goodbye.
I don’t want to live on the brink of some helpless betrayal that transforms these everyday banalities into someone else’s business.
But here’s the thing: I live in a relatively cosmopolitan, relatively liberal town in the industrialised west. I’m not illegal. The likelihood of actual physical violence is incredibly small. The worst I’m probably going to suffer are some jeers and catcalls, a handful of words that have close to lost their edges for me, some tired jokes based on some false assumptions about what it means to be who I am.
So what I am right now—what I have been all my life—is a coward. If I want to hold my partner’s hand, I should damn well hold his hand, and stop whining about it. The way to effect change, after all, is to live it. But, hilarious as it may sound considering I do occasionally—in some very small and unimportant way—make myself a talking point on the internet, I’m private, and taking my partner’s hand is always, inevitably, undeniably, inescapably, a political act. And sometimes I am simply too weary and too small to live my politics.
This is an excerpt from a post by Alexis Hall entitled someday I will be kissed in the pouring rain. Do read the full post, which is so very beautiful and thought provoking…
Alexis’ post shows us how wearying it is, when acting as you wish is a political act, when sharing small intimate moments – like straightening a lover’s collar – risks mindless jeers, or name calling. How all anyone wants is that their love, if noticed at all, is just noted, as a good thing for humanity in general.
Whilst thinking of something to write for this post about International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia, – it struck me that most ‘International Days’ are ‘for something’. International Women’s Day, International Workers’ Day even International Day for Nude Gardening!
Maybe we are going about this the wrong way – It wasn’t International Day Against War, but International Day for Peace. Instead of being anti-bullying I support International Day for Consideration for Others (ok that could be phrased better).
So on this the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia – I propose to call it ‘The International Day of Acceptance’.
For this day isn’t just about freedom to love who you wish – it is about accepting people for who they are – not who you think they should be.
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