How many? Boring? Necessary? Exciting? Dislike them? Love them? For the Story? For the reader? For the author? For the publisher?
What say you?
I don’t need them in every story I read, even those labeled specifically as “romance”. I just don’t. If it fits the characters and the story, making sense for the circumstances, then I’m all for it. Gimme gimme gimme. If it’s a deft mix of physical detail and emotion, no matter what that emotion is, I’m all for it. Gimme gimme gimme.
If it doesn’t fit the story, making little sense for the setting, don’t gimme. If it’s filled with physical description only, no connection, – which isn’t the same as a non-connection between characters, which carries with it an entire set of emotions unique to that – then don’t gimme.
If it’s filling a quota beyond the author’s control, I would say please forgive me for skimming, but I don’t need any permission to do that.
I’m mostly talking about fiction here, not erotica, which somehow resides in its own universe. Though, erotica can be fiction, too. Ah, a sticky wicket, eh? Erotica: a conversation for another day? Part of the conversation?
Then again, people have sex because it’s enjoyable, so if the characters are in a place mentally where the sex is a positive part of their relationship, why not do it? Why not show it? Why not have scenes where, even if they’ve just been through something harrowing and are now safe (or not), they have sex to reaffirm (or affirm) that connection? It’s so very human to feel a strong need to for connection to, in fact, verify they’re still alive.
Why shouldn’t the characters get handsy while cooking breakfast, leading to sex on the table, or the floor, or up against the counter’s edge?
What I’m leading to is this: it doesn’t feel right when a reader, or author for that matter, feels the need to justify why or how a particular sex scene, or sex in general, is a necessary part of the story. People have sex to have sex, not always or necessarily or even very often to justify anything, except maybe their love and passion for each other.
(it’s ok, you can start singing, I’ve got Madonna running through my head now, too.)
This is, of course, putting aside for this conversation the other reasons people have sex: revenge, desperation, anger, etc.
Though, maybe we shouldn’t put those aside, as they’re just as valid reasons in terms of reality. For me, it’s not as much if the sex fits into the story but if it fits with the characters, lining up with their previous behavior, even if or when under stress. The why and the where are important, not just the how and the what.
I might be crossing over between multiple conversational topics here, but it was something I thought about enough, warranting this post.
I like sex in my stories for the reasons I’ve stated.
I don’t like sex in my stories that is filling a quota or attempting to maintain any false expectation based on an author’s previous works.
This could mean lots of sex, no sex, all types of sex, only certain kinds of sex, and everything in between. Most of the time, we all innately know when something feels right in terms of character behavior. By default, that usually means it works for the story. Roll with that.
The Conclusion…. Or not.
I think I’m both sides of this sexy, interesting coin. I bet a lot of readers feel this way. Or are definitely one side or the other, never the twain having a whisper of a dream of meeting. Or are still mulling it over, wondering, thinking back to your own reading experiences and the feelings you had about them in regards to le sex.
I think it means there’s no easy answer, no one answer and, like many things in life, will be a conversation without end.
Ultimately, what I hope it means is that we’ll continue to get more and more variation in our fiction. I love me some romance but I also love me some mystery, and crime stories, and paranormal, and more, and they don’t always have to involve sex and full-out romance for me to devour them.
But, ya know, don’t stop with the sexin’ either. 😉
Also, did I ask enough questions? LOL 🙂
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