Jamie Fessenden on Violated ~ Guest Blog, Local Giveaway

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Violated-cover

Title: Violated
Author: Jamie Fessenden
Publisher: Dreamspinner Press
Cover Artist: LC Chase
Genre: Contemporary, M/M Romance

Blurb:

Derek Sawyer thinks he has it all—a high-salaried position, a boyfriend, a dog, even a new cabin on the lake—until a business trip with his manager and best friend, Victor, shatters his world.

One night of drunken horsing around in their hotel room leads to the most intensely personal violation Derek has ever endured. As if the humiliation of working under his attacker every day isn’t enough, Victor reports Derek for sexual harassment. Now he’s without a job, without a boyfriend, and the mortgage on the cabin is due.

Officer Russ Thomas has worked with rape victims before, and it doesn’t take him long to sort out the truth in Derek’s tale. With his support, Derek finally reports the crime, months after it happened. But restraining orders and lawyers further Victor’s anger toward him, and even though a relationship develops between Derek and the policeman, Russ can’t be there to protect him all the time.

Male Rape

Violated deals with a very dark subject—male rape. It’s something many people don’t appear to believe in. Women are raped, but not men. Or if they are, it only happens in prison or under similar circumstances. Unfortunately, the reality is that it happens all the time, and in our everyday lives.

Although it’s difficult to get accurate statistics, due to the fact many men are too ashamed to report sexual assault, studies indicate as many as 1 in 6 men are sexually assaulted before reaching the age of 18. Most likely, the number is higher. A couple of years ago, a survey of 40,000 households discovered that 38 percent of the victims of rape and sexual violence reported were men. We may be seeing the numbers increasing due to public awareness of the issue, so that men are increasingly likely to report sexual assault, and changes in the way our culture defines “rape” and “sexual assault.” It’s possible, for instance, to force a man to perform oral sex. That’s sexual assault. Incidents like that were being left out of national rape statistics.

None of this should be viewed as minimizing the victimization of women in our society—the numbers are still higher for women. But really, this is a “contest” nobody wants to win. It diminishes us all, and we need to work to prevent sexual violence against everybody.

Men and women must both deal with the stigma society has against victims of sexual assault. For a men, it can get bound up in society’s rigid definitions of masculinity: men are strong, they should be able to fight off attackers, and those who can’t are weak and “unmanly.” A man who is raped may question his masculinity. The very fact that he was raped can mean to him that he failed at being a man. After the incident, he may feel he should be able to handle the emotional repercussions of the assault on his own, without seeking therapy or even telling anyone about what happened to him. And if he can’t handle it, he might view that as yet another failure to be a man. If he was raped by a man, he may even question his sexual orientation after the incident—because sometimes men get aroused, even if the situation is unpleasant or repellent to them.

In Violated, Derek has a phobia of being unmanly, more or less beaten into him by his stepfather, and when the inconceivable happens to him, he doesn’t know how to handle it. So, at least for a while, he doesn’t. He does what “men do”—he stays silent, gets up every morning, and goes to work… despite the fact that this brings him face to face with his rapist on a daily basis.

SOURCES:

https://1in6.org/the-1-in-6-statistic/

https://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/male-sexual-assault
http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/04/male_rape_in_america_a_new_study_reveals_that_men_are_sexually_assaulted.html

Links

Violated on Goodreads
Dreamspinner Press
Amazon US
Amazon UK
Amazon CA
All Romance eBooks

Giveaway

One lucky commenter will when their choice of backlist titles from Jamie Fessenden.

About the Author

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Farewell Giveaway
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.

Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,

Brandilyn
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14 thoughts on “Jamie Fessenden on Violated ~ Guest Blog, Local Giveaway

  1. Thanks for this post, It is so good to spread some awareness that yes even men get raped. Thanks to Jamie for having the courage to write about such an emotional subject.

  2. This is such a unvoiced topic as well, Thank you Jamie for bringing it forward. Society still has a warped view of “rape” and the associated terms. Men or women. I hope that the changing views are helping more and more people that are affected by this issue.

  3. Thank your for writing about this important topic and helping to shed light on the reality of it rather than people’s assumptions/perceptions. Rape is everyone’s problem and the better we understand what is happening, the better we can all try to prevent it and help those who are victims.

  4. This book sounds really interesting, though painful. Rape is always a traumatic topic to deal with, and man rape must be worse due to the weakness it seems to convey (which is absolutely false).
    I’ve already added it to my TBR list.

  5. Thank you for the incredible post. I think that lots of people don’t think a man can be raped, which is not true. Thank you for writing a story that deals with it and for the giveaway.

  6. Thank you for this post. It is a very difficult subject especially for men but it is one that needs more attention to help those who have been victimized.

  7. Jamie Fessenden is a really talented author and his books are really something you should have. I have a couple and Violated is one of the best. Thank you.

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