GRL 2015: An Introvert Ventures Out of the Writing Cave ~ GRL Spotlight Stop with Alexa Land

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Hi, my name’s Alexa, and I’m an introvert. No, no, it’s okay, you don’t have to fix me by sending me links to self-help articles on overcoming it. Really. Because you know what? Not only do I like being an introvert, it actually doesn’t need fixing!

That realization was years in the making. For so long, I thought there must be something wrong with me, because I’d much rather stay home with a book than say yes to that party invitation. Society tells us we’re supposed to be a certain way, and places so much value on being outgoing and wanting to be in the spotlight. But that notion undervalues a large percentage of our population.

Because so many introverts have been made to feel like there’s something wrong with us, we try to pass ourselves off as extroverts a lot of the time. But when we pretend to be something we’re not, we lose a piece of ourselves. Did you know that according to recent research, one-third to one-half of us are introverts? But you’d never know it, because so many of us are out there pretending!

I have the perfect job for an introvert. I write full-time, so I can stay in my writing cave for days on end. But this year I decided to attend Rainbow Con, just to see how it would go. It turned out to be a great experience, so I set my sights on the much bigger and far more intimidating GRL Retreat. Let me tell you, something like that is almost enough to send me running for the hills. But I’m doing it anyway, for one reason: I want to meet some of my readers and fellow authors. That was the very best part of Rainbow Con, and I’m looking forward to more of the same at GRL.

That’s right, the self-proclaimed introvert is looking forward to meeting people. A big misconception about us is that we’re anti-social. Nope. We’re just social in a different way. Being introverted simply means we also need time alone, and to deny that part of us is really doing ourselves a disservice.

I heard it described like this once, and it made so much sense to me: extroverts recharge their batteries by being around other people. Introverts recharge by being alone. So, if you’re an introvert and you deny yourself alone time because you think you’re always supposed to be out being social, you’re letting yourself get drained.

So yes, I’m attending a conference with hundreds of people, but I’m doing it on my terms. If I feel like I need to step away periodically, I’m not making any excuses or apologies for it. This is who I am. It’s who a lot of us are, as it turns out.

Whether you’re attending GRL and feeling scared and intimidated, or just navigating life as an introvert and have ever been made to feel less-than, I hope you find your way to self-acceptance. It’s what we all deserve. And if you’re an extrovert, I hope this helped shed some light on the rest of us. A little understanding goes a long way.

~Alexa Land


About Alexa Land

Alexa Land is an independent author of gay fiction and romance. Her character-driven books include the best-selling Firsts and Forever Series, which is currently at nine volumes and counting. Her latest book, Coming Home, was a number one best seller in gay fiction and gay romance and broke into the Top 100 across all genres on Amazon. It also was ranked in the Top 10 independently published books on Amazon, across genres. The next book in the series, All I Believe, will be out before the end of the year. She was born in Southern California and has been on a gradual northern migration ever since, having called Santa Cruz, San Francisco, and now Oregon home.

Most recent title: Coming Home
Twitter: @AlexaLandWrites


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15 thoughts on “GRL 2015: An Introvert Ventures Out of the Writing Cave ~ GRL Spotlight Stop with Alexa Land

  1. Great article! I always feel I have to make excuses for being an introvert. Or maybe it’s just an excuse I use to stay home so I can read awesome mm books like yours. 😉

  2. Thanks for the article. I’m an introvert. In high school a lot of people thought I was stuck up because I stayed to myself. Wish I was going to GRL to meet all the great authors including you Alexa

  3. I completely get where you are coming from Alexa. People always think I am really gregarious but it’s all a front. 95% of the time I just want to be left alone with a cat on my lap and a good book

  4. Excited that I will get to meet you. I love this series so hard! The nice thing about a con with authors and readers is that the introvert percent goes way up. I bet 90% of us are introverts. So, excusing yourself for some alone time definitely won’t be an issue 🙂

    • Hi Jen! I’m so happy that you’re enjoying the series, and I look forward to meeting you, too! I think you’re right that there will be a large percentage of introverts at GRL! 🙂

  5. Hi Alexa! I absolutely get it about needing some alone time. I don’t mind crowds for a little while. I’m even OK with being the center of attention occasionally. But it’s exhausting, and I really need to take the time to just BE.

    I love your books, and I can’t wait to read All I Believe. I look forward to seeing Nico put aside the law books for a while and search for his HEA. And I especially can’t wait to see Nana take Sicily by storm!

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