Happy Anniversary! ~ Outside the Margins with L Dean Pace-Frech

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Happy Anniversary!

Seven years ago today, Thomas and I got married. All our guests arrived at the church right as bands of pouring rain from (I believe) Hurricane Ike fell upon Southwest Missouri. Now that ceremony was only a Holy Union. In 2008 marriage equality had only been achieved in a handful of states and Missouri wasn’t one of them. We were officially married, in our home Presbyterian Church, by our own pastor on February 14th  of this last year. But in my heart, today will always be the true Wedding Anniversary.

A friend from church, herself practically married to a woman for nearly fifteen years, signed our license as a deputy for the County Recorder of Deeds. We chatted briefly about anniversaries and how gay people have so many more anniversaries than straight couples. In our first few years, we celebrated a few of those milestones. Our first date was November 3. Thomas moved in with me on February 13, so Valentine’s Day has always been a special day for us. We signed up in the Eureka Springs, AR Domestic Partnership Registry on April 10.

Of all those dates, the one we most remember is September 13. Everyone holding their joyful tears in check until our friend Stephen sang his song at rehearsal. My aunt bonding with Thomas’ aunt-cousins. The rain gently beating on the roof and windows as we said our vows.Singing “Say A Little Prayer for You” at the reception, almost like they did in the movie My Best Friend’s Wedding.  Breakfast with everyone the next day (which means our wedding was also a “three-day affair” just like the movie).

Another fond memory of mine will always be going into the fellowship hall before the wedding to see how dinner was coming along, to be rushed out of the kitchen amidst a flurry of activity. Later, when I exclaimed “Wow, we did great on estimating the lasagna preparation” (there was one slice left), Pastor Steve and our friend Stephen explained, when you came back to check on us, we were cleaning up when Stephen dropped a whole pan of lasagna out of the oven. “It just slipped from my hands,” he told me.

When Brandilyn approached me last year about Outside the Margins, I picked the 13th of the month so that I could share our anniversary with everyone on the blog. For some, thirteen is an unlucky number, but Thomas and I have embraced it with happiness and love!

What anniversaries do you celebrate and why? I’d love to hear!

~L Dean Pace-Frech


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About L Dean Pace-Frech

With inspiration from historical tourism sites, the love of reading, and a desire to write a novel, Dean started crafting his debut novel, A Place to Call Their Own, in 2008. After four years of writing and polishing the manuscript, it was accepted and published by Musa Publishing in 2013. His second novel, Disappear With Me, set in Edwardian England was published later that same year by Musa.

Dean lives in Kansas City, Missouri, with his husband, Thomas (legally as of February 14, 2015), and their two cats. They are involved in their church and enjoy watching movies, outdoor activities in the warmer weather, and spending time together with friends and family. In addition to writing, his hobbies include reading and patio gardening.

Dean is currently working a standalone title, Need Your Love, set in 1966, and The Higher Law, a continuation of the story of Frank and Gregory’s family set in the 1930s.

Farewell Giveaway
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.

Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,

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