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Dorien Grey (‘Franklin’ Roger Margason 14 November 1933 – 1 November 2015) A Memorial
“It seems I have reluctantly been called away. But I wanted to thank each of you for the pleasure of your company on my journey through this all-too-brief life. I would hope I might remain, occasionally, in your thoughts, and that you might help my books, blogs, and other writings remain alive though I no longer am.
I have returned to the eternity from which I—from which we all—emerged at birth, and to which we all return. As a writer, I should be able to come up with a few memorable last words of my own, but I can think of none more fitting than those of Peter Pan, with whom I have always identified: ‘Second star to the right, then straight on till morning.'” ~Dorien Grey/Roger M..
These were Dorien’s last words, given to his best friend, Gary, to post and read at his funeral.
Dorien (because he told me he felt more like Dorien and less like Roger every day) – Dorien had been my friend for several years. Friendships online meant more and more to him in his last years. An operation for oral cancer had left him unable to eat real food, or drink more than a few drops at a time. Of course, it also made his speech hard to understand, and on top of these problems, he suffered from the prejudice we will all meet – that of the young to the elderly.
However, using his Blogs, Facebook and Pinterest he was understood, nourished, encouraged, admired and loved. In return we were treated to his wisdom; his humour which could be very cutting; his stories, and his love for Robert Bollo, male ballet dancers in general and, male beauty of the past and of course his books. By highlighting the beauty of bygone days, he made me more aware of the damage done by our youth obsessed culture. Sadly, he knew, the gay world he was a part of is probably the worst of all where the veneration of youth and physical beauty is concerned.
His insight into American politics was my touchstone, when that country bemused me…and his stories regarding the past; Gay Dance Clubs – Stonewall and the riots – being gay in the Navy, and tales of being in ports around the Med….were equal parts funny, outrageous and sad.
Dorien would have been horrified, as we all are, by the atrocities committed in Paris. He loved travel and the bequest, of his ex-partner, ‘Norm’, enabled him to travel to Europe, and places he loved even as late as last year when he took a Mediterranean cruise.
After leaving the Navy, he spent many years in publishing and editing in the gay press in L.A.
It was not until he retired that, on returning to Chicago, he began writing as Dorien Grey and his tongue in cheek gay P.I. series became a hit. His take on the hard-bitten heterosexual private eye, was originally meant for a gay male audience, but proved so successful that mystery readers of all sexualities and genders read The Dick Hardesty Mysteries. He went on to write a total of 25 novels including a ‘different kind of’ western Calico, the John series and a book of poetry. He topped it off with a series of biographical musings A World Ago: A Navy Man’s Letters Home, 1954-1956. A bibliography, and links to all his writings and blogs are to be found by clicking on the link here.
Only a week or so before he died he was working on an essay for Queer Romance Month that he promised he would send me when ‘he felt a bit better’ – I will always miss Dorien – he was unique and he was my friend. I hope he is somewhere enjoying the food he could not eat and the company of the people he missed so much.
He is survived by his beloved Siamese cat ‘Spirit’, and any donations in his name can be made to
Alternatively, as he so politely asks above, remember him by reading his books – they are such enjoyable murder mysteries imbued with humour, parody and clever plotlines.
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.
Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,
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