I have three small children. One of whom is special needs. One of whom is homeschooled (pre-school). I have a house to maintain. I have a house to sell, and a new one to buy. I have a family dealing with various health crises. I am dealing with my own “life-changing injury”. I have bills to pay. I have a life. I do not work outside the home, but I have more than a full-time job at home.
I have many hobbies. I used to knit. I used to watch TV. I used to sew. I used to take pretty pictures. All my time for those tasks has been reallocated to running the blog. I am not complaining about the time I take for the blog. I give of my time freely. I want to see this genre succeed and grow. I want to see the message of “Love is Love” take hold in the world. I want the world we leave for my children, to be better than the one in which I live now.
I can’t do much for the world at large, but this is something I can do.
Having people on the inside undermining all the good this genre can do leaves me questioning the time and effort I put into the blog and the genre. I used to believe in it. But all the drama is making me question.
I don’t talk about how much it costs to run this blog. But let me put this out there for you. Here are my annual costs (rounded to the nearest dollar):
Website hosting, design, and software – $655
Advertising, Swag, and giveaways – $3140
Shipping for Giveaways, Swag, and Cons – $350
Sponsorship of UKMeet – $450
I won’t add in the cost of conventions. If you also go, then you know how much those can set you back. I also won’t talk about how much I spend on books in this genre. Again, as readers I am sure you know the costs there.
Now let us talk about time. Basically, all of my free time goes into the blog. Granted, over the last seven months, that time has been greatly reduced due to doctors visits, healing, surgery, and general pain management. In my absence, however, Katie “PizzyGirl” and the rest of my team have stepped up and given of THEIR time to keep this beast running. I consider their time even more important than mine. However, before the disaster that is my leg, I easily gave 50-60 hours a week to running the blog. That doesn’t count the time I spent reading and writing reviews.
We all have our battles. We all have built-in potential excuses. We all have “reasons”. However, most of us don’t morph those battles into stealing or playing on other’s emotions.
The few are hurting the many. The few are causing us to question the honest. The few are showing us liars, cheaters, and generally the worst of society.
This isn’t about pen names. It isn’t about gender, or privacy, or plagiarism, so many other topics that blow up into the drama we don’t need. We have the same arguments about every month or so. These arguments aren’t going to be resolved. For some reason, we simply must make sure that everyone knows our opinions and make sure those that don’t agree feel as small and insignificant as possible.
Let’s talk about what can happen if you fall on the “wrong” side of whatever the drama de jour is. Unfortunately, that “wrong” side, doesn’t seem to have any consistency. Sometimes you are “supposed” to side with the liars, cheaters, and thieves. Sometimes you are supposed to be against the same. If you choose wrong (regardless of your ACTUAL feelings… because those aren’t allowed no matter what they are), you are painted with a brush you didn’t intend.
Then someone decides it is time for the “truth”. I put the word “truth” in quotes for a reason. We never know what is true and what is fiction. Let me give you a hint… fiction belongs between the covers of a book. You can still be private online without making up a life that isn’t yours. You want to make up a world in which you live and love separate from your own? Write a book. Make a movie. Write a play. Cosplay. LARP. You have many options that involve like-minded individuals and do not harm others.
Playing with the hearts and minds of others is wrong. Let me repeat that. PLAYING WITH THE HEARTS AND MINDS OF OTHERS IS WRONG.
There is an onus on those who interact online to do so with some caution. Many of the recent “outings” could have been avoided if people had put the signs together (trust me, they were there if you wanted to see them) and not chosen to trust blindly. Well, blindly isn’t the right word. They chose to trust what was told to them. They chose to trust what their “friends” were selling. They gave of their hearts, minds, and trust freely. A trust that was neither earned nor valued.
We still live in a world where people trust first. You want to know something? I don’t want to live in that world where we can’t.
All this drama makes for a hostile working environment. And don’t doubt for a second that this genre is one big working environment. We may live all over the world and go to work in our PJs, but we are all coworkers. We are work friends. Last time I was in a hostile working environment, I moved on. I became a stay at home mom. The toxicity in this genre has me thinking of taking those same steps again. It makes me not want to give of my time/money/energy/knowledge/opinion.
I love the stories (the ones in books)… I hurt for those duped/stolen from/taken advantage of. I hurt for those who are following the rules and getting painted with the same brush. I hurt for the genre as a whole, who cannot seem to make headway with being taken seriously thanks to all the in-fighting.
This genre can come together and do great things, both for individuals and the world around us, when we try. The in-fighting, deceit, and general over-reaction to every perceived slight is making people turn away. Readers and authors alike.
By and large this genre is a great place to call home. Most of the people in the genre are genuine with their intentions and affections. Please stop ruining it for them. Please be upfront with what you can and stay silent with what you can’t. Don’t make-up stories that aren’t in a book. Don’t take advantage of people. Make sure your work is original — your own. Don’t play with people’s emotions. Think before you speak. Above all DO NO HARM.
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.
Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,
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