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Have you ever tried to quit Facebook?
When Facebook was opened to people who didn’t have an .edu email address, people clambered to the social networking site. They connected with long-lost friends, chatted with favorite relatives, and some even rekindled love affairs that had fizzled years earlier. In some of those instances it didn’t take long to see why friendships ended or why everyone in the family avoided Uncle Larry.
Several years ago, after being on Facebook long enough to reconnect with all the friends and family we wanted to, my husband and I both decided to unplug and go off the grid again. It was during a very stressful time, and we found Facebook to be more of a time-suck that took us away from what we really wanted to focus on. Before we left, we ensured people had our email addresses and phone numbers so they could get in contact still.
“You can’t do that. Why would you want to leave Facebook? How will we know what’s going on in your lives?”
Some people were pissed.
Facebook has changed quite dramatically from those early “social” years and even more so since it became publicly traded. It’s now a clearinghouse of information where hundreds of people, businesses, and organizations are screaming into the ether trying to get noticed. And now with the politics…. Ugh.
I scroll through my newsfeed every morning and face depressing stories, atrocities, and political memes. Then there’s the clikcbait. I won’t even get started on that.
Yet Facebook aggregates the news sources I trust and brings them to me, which I like. I get entertained and laugh at the funny things people post. It also introduces me to new books, new authors, and kind people I want to interact with.
And that’s, I realized, why people were pissed when we left Facebook for those few years. We were still very much alive and well online. We both maintained blogs and answered email daily, so we never truly went off the grid, but the goings-on in our lives were no longer being delivered to peoples’ newsfeeds.
I came back as Posy before I came back with my RL account, which I’m hardly ever on. But my Posy account is a daily thing. These are my people. I can post about LGBT issues and not have to deal with homophobic acquaintances. I can admit loving a story with D/s puppy play in it without risking my job because I wrote about something that wasn’t family friendly. I can be myself because of the people I’ve chosen to associate with rather than the ones I went to school with, work with, or lived next door to.
And yes, I can market my books to people who actually want to buy MM Romance. Because trust me, the people on my RL account are not going to be picking up Farm Fresh to read about a sexually-free, intentional community where people go out of their way to help each other thrive. A shared economy? Most of my RL people would balk at the notion and call me whatever Fox News is using as their insult of the week.
Even though Facebook gives me all these benefits, I still want to hide under a rock and go off grid from time to time. It’s usually right after a book release. The focused attention is hard for me. I’m used to doing my solitary thing with no one paying me much mind, let alone posting about me. The hyper-focus during a book launch is great for my book. My introverted side? Not so much. But it’s a small price to pay, even if it means I avoid Facebook for a week or two.
I get tempted to leave Facebook at times. My husband deactivates his account a few times a year to take a break. He always goes back, but his weeks where he’s disconnected always fill his soul.
Last night John and I talked about his most recent Facebook hiatus. He hates that he uses Facebook as entertainment because it’s really horrid entertainment. He goes there when he’s bored to try to find something of interest. Most of the time it’s a bust, but he realized it was the newsfeed and the chosen people, news, humor, and life that keep him coming back.
Have you quit? Have you gone off the grid? How did it change you? What did you realize while gone?
Title: Farm Fresh
Author: Posy Roberts
Publisher: Labyrinth Bound Press
Publication Date: 01/28/2016
Cover Artist: Natasha Snow
Genre: Bisexual, Fiction, Gay, Gay Fiction, M/M Romance, Menage/Poly, Romance
Jude Garrity visits the farmers market every Saturday. As an environmental engineering student, he’s curious about living off the grid and sustainable agriculture.
And one particular farmer.
Hudson Oliva has worked hard to support his commune, where queer people live without fear of harm or retribution. When Jude asks pointed questions about living there, Hudson realizes he needs to be honest about his home. Few people know what the farm is actually about, but Jude is insistent.
Jude moves to Kaleidoscope Gardens, however his sexual hang-ups make it hard to adjust. He’s an uptight virgin living among people who have sex freely and with multiple partners. When Jude finally loosens up, Hudson is flooded with emotions. Falling for Jude wasn’t part of Hudson’s life plan. But when vindictive rumors about the commune begin to spread, love might be all he has left.
About Posy RobertsPosy Roberts writes about romantic male love. Whether her characters are family men, drag queens, or lonely men searching for connections, they all find a home in her stories.
Posy is married to a man who makes sure she doesn’t forget to eat or sleep; her daughter, a budding author and dedicated Whovian, helps her come up with character names. When Posy’s not writing, she enjoys crafting, hiking, and singing spontaneously about the mundane, just to make normal seem more interesting.
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.
Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,
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