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This is my first guest post for Prism. I figured I’d start with a quick intro.
Hi. waves I’m Jaime Reese. I write gay romance. I’m also Reese Dante and I design book covers. In a nutshell….I’m social but guarded. I’m an extremely private person, yet transparent if you really know me. I’m married to an awesomely supportive and patient hubby and we have a baby boy (our dog, Rocco) who lets us live in his house. If you’re my friend on Facebook, chances are, you’ve met Rocco. 🙂
Enough about me.
I debated, wondering what the heck to post here (see private person note above). Then, sadly, life flashed a huge neon sign and made it crystal clear to me.
I’m often asked about my series and… “Why do you write about second chances?”
I have my standard answer to this question, and it usually goes something like this…
We’re human. With that, comes the innate ability to make mistakes.
The Men of Halfway House is a series about men who have been dealt a crappy hand in life for one reason or another, whether by their own doing or as a result of circumstance. The halfway house provides them with that second chance they crave in life and/or love to change the direction of their lives.
And even still, when I’m asked this same question during a panel at my first GRL last year wearing my author hat, I fight back tears. Why? Because I think of my mom. Next month marks another year since she passed away. (And no, it doesn’t get any easier.) I’m extremely blessed to have had a special relationship with her where I always had the chance to say what I needed/wanted to say.
I know that’s not the case with everyone. I know how it feels to have a missed opportunity. And I know how much it stings to not have said or done something during that first opportunity.
I was reminded of that this month when I received news that rattled me. I lost a friend. We were the same age, went to the same school, worked in the same field, and were linked by both friendship and family ties. She died well before her time. It was unexpected and left a pain-filled wake of family and friends with too many unanswered, heartbreaking questions.
Then, Orlando happened.
A stark, shattering realization that life is often…unexpectedly, cut short.
Why wait for a “maybe” second chance when you can take advantage of the guaranteed first “moment”?
How many times have you wanted to say or do something but either chickened out, forgot, or just figured, meh, I’ll do it the next time? I’m not referring to some major life-altering decision or a carpe diem moment where you leave it all behind to follow your dreams. I’m referring to the small things. Those tiny little words people often take for granted. A heartfelt I love you, a genuine thank you, the unexpected you were on my mind, an honest it was nice spending time with you, let’s do it again – then actually scheduling the time to do it again.
Life is a series of moments. Good and bad. Some are casual, some are epic, some are forks in the road in life. You go along, minding your own business, then—bam!—you’re blindsided by something that shakes you to the core. Suddenly, all the would’ves, should’ves, and could’ves in your life are as fruitless as that missed opportunity to say or do something. And regret sets in and weighs far more heavily than you could have imagined.
There’s never a “perfect” time for some things. And oftentimes, we take friends and family for granted because they’re there and we think they always will be. If there’s someone who’s come to mind more than most lately, don’t delay. Pick up the phone or compose an email just to let them know you’re thinking about them. Sometimes, a short one-liner is all that’s needed to turn someone’s day completely around. If you have a loved one, don’t forget to let them know you love them or how important they are to you. If you have a friend who is always there for you – let them know how much you appreciate them. Don’t assume they know. We’re human, and sadly, not all of us are great at interpreting how others convey their emotions. Sometimes, a few words often mean everything to someone.
For some, a few words mean everything. Both hearing them and knowing you had the chance to say them.
Don’t have the sting of regret from that missed opportunity. Because I can tell you, it hurts.
Pick up the phone, compose that email, or send that text message.
Make your moment.
~Jaime Reese / Reese Dante
Title: A Mended Man
Author: Jaime Reese
Publication Date: 04/26/2016
Genre: Contemporary, Gay Romance, Romance
About Jaime Reese / Reese Dante
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