Alexa Land ~ GRL 2016 Author Tour Local Giveaway

Prism Book Alliance® would like to thank Alexa Land for stopping by today on the 2016 GRL Author Spotlight Tour. Please give them a warm welcome.

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This October, I’ll be attending my second GRL Retreat. I was so nervous last year! As a hardcore introvert, attending a conference was way outside my comfort zone. I talked about this on Prism Book Alliance, in a post you can read here.

Was my first GRL scary at times? You betcha! But it was also rewarding, in ways I hadn’t predicted. I met some amazing people, including several authors and readers who became good friends, and I had a wonderful time.

It was rewarding for another reason, too: not once did I have to explain why I write gay romance, or what the genre means to me and to its readers. This huge group of people just got it. Wow, did that feel good! More than that: it was validating.

I’ve lost friends because of what I write. Even among the people who are still around, their disdain for what I do seeps out occasionally, like when they ‘joke’, “So, are you still writing gay porn?” Or when they say things like, “You know, you’re a really good writer. You don’t have to stick to those gay books, you could write anything you wanted.”

What am I supposed to do with a comment like that? I’m writing exactly what I want! This is my passion, and these are the stories I need to tell. Trying to explain that to people I know ‘in real life’ is exhausting, because no matter what I say, they’ll never really understand why I write what I do.

And that’s one of the biggest joys of attending an event like the GRL Retreat: there’s no need to explain. We all share the same passion without questioning or judging. In the rest of my life, I feel like a zebra in a world full of donkeys. But for one glorious long weekend a year, I get to meet up with my fellow zebras, and we get to run together, happy and proud. We get to just BE. What an incredible gift!

So, to the organizers of GRL: thank you for giving us a place to come together, to meet like-minded people, and to feel accepted and a part of something bigger than ourselves. To my fellow authors and readers, those who’ll be attending GRL and those I only know online: thank you, too, for being a part of this community and for being truly supportive, no explanation required. Keep being zebras in a world full of donkeys, friends! I get it, and I know you do, too.


About the Author


Alexa Land writes the best-selling Firsts and Forever Series. Her most recent book, Who I Used to Be, is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

Find Alexa: On facebook, on Twitter @AlexaLandWrites, and on her blog.

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17 thoughts on “Alexa Land ~ GRL 2016 Author Tour Local Giveaway

  1. Yes! This is exactly why I love GRL. I am a reader and deal with similar statements which is why I have an alter ego. This dragon will love to meet you this year. Thank you for the lovely post. p.s. I am enjoying listening to your audiobooks very much. I plan on working my way through the entire series. Wonderful, fun characters.

  2. I really wish I could visit GRL so I could meet with like-minded people too. One of these years, it will be held close enough or I will have enough money to go. Enjoy everyone!

    • I certainly understand about the expense, Lee. That’s one of the great things about FB, despite all its flaws: I’ve met so many wonderful members of our community for free, right from the comfort of my own home. 🙂

    • I have been lucky to make some fantastic new friends! It’s such a wonderful thing to get to know people who accept me for who I am! Frankly, the people I lost weren’t true friends to begin with. They showed me that by letting their prejudice get in the way of our friendship.

  3. I am not a sociable person in real life but i have lots of friends in the m/m community now. Some i treasure even if we don’t speak every day or week. The conversations i have usually cheer people up and we have a good laugh.

  4. I remember standing in line and hearing your name and thinking “Oh My Gawd…She is a Real Person and She Is Beautiful”. You were a highlight of my first GRL and I treasured every moment with you. Drinks, sushi and giggling. Can’t wait to do it again in a few weeks

    • Hugs, Vicki! I hope to have the chance to meet you at some point, and until then, I’m glad you’re a part of our online community! 🙂

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