Winning the War ~ Outside the Margins with Shae Connor

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It’s been a rough month. I’m betting a lot of you aren’t feeling all that thankful at the moment. It’s hard to see the good around us when we’ve been kicked in the gut like this.

I’d thought about writing a post about how we should give thanks anyway—and I think we should, not matter how hard it is. But instead, I’m going to talk about things we can do now to try to make things better in the long run.

First and foremost is self-care. As I told a friend recently: “Be sure to secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others.” Stay as safe as you can. Find people you can trust in an emergency. If you’re tapped out, do what you need to do to recover. Take a social media break. Spend time with friends or family. Sleep. Eat comfort foods, watch comfort movies, read comfort books. Refresh yourself in whatever ways work for you so you’re ready for the fight ahead.

Next up: look for tangible ways you can help. If you have time, volunteer for organizations working to support marginalized people and communities. If you have money, donate. If you have neither—and I know many people don’t—help spread the word about those organizations.

Call your government representatives, at every level. You may be rebuffed in some cases, but it’s important that elected officials hear from their constituents, and phone calls are likely to have the most impact. Write down what you want to say before you call (or Google for suggested scripts), and be as specific as possible about what you want them to do.

If you’re eligible, vote. Far too many people never make it to the polls, and that’s a travesty for all of us—especially when so many people who would love to vote aren’t given the chance. Vote in every single election you can, at every level. Read up ahead of time so you know who and what you’re voting for. Encourage others around you to vote, too.

Get involved in political campaigns, or even run for office if you can. Donate money or time. Throw your support behind candidates who support your ideals, from the local level on up the line.

Talk to friends and family members whose political positions are different from yours. In many cases, that could be the most difficult thing to do, but one-on-one discussions are often the best way to change minds. Arm yourself with facts, but be ready to appeal to emotion as well, since that’s what often makes up the basis of entrenched beliefs.

Support the people around you, particularly those in the most marginalized groups. Be willing to step in to provide emotional or even physical help if possible and necessary. Know who to call to report incidents depending on when and how they happen: supervisors or human resources at work, security or police in public places, even the media or civil rights organizations.

Let others choose the way they respond to current events, even (maybe especially) if it’s different from what works for you. Emotions have been running high, but anger and fear are justified. We’ve got a fight on our hands. We need people who will speak out as loudly as needed, as often as needed. If it bothers you to see people reacting that way—and that’s a perfectly legitimate response, too—don’t hesitate to unfollow/mute or take a social media break (see: self-care).

Most of all, try not to lose hope. I know it’s hard. I’m in the same place. But I keep reminding myself that, while hate may win battles, it rarely wins the war.

Keep on fighting.

~Shae Connor


Title: Heart & Soul
Author: Shae Connor
Publisher: Self Published
Publication Date: 11/14/2016
Cover Artist: AngstyG
Genre: Bisexual, Contemporary, Gay, Gay Romance, Romance


Love can sneak up on you in the last place you’d expect.

Kellen Grady has known he’s gay since he was a teenager, but he’s never been that interested in dating. A professional pianist, he’s happy spending his days teaching students of all ages and his nights working and playing at an Atlanta bar and concert venue. When former pro football player Terrence Harvey and his brother buy the bar, Kellen’s thrown by the change to his routine, but he develops a quick friendship with Terrence, drawn to his sunny nature and sharp mind. Then their relationship takes a turn when Terrence surprises Kellen with a kiss. The unexpected action, though not unwelcome, leaves Kellen faced with reevaluating everything he thought he knew—about Terrence, and about himself.


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About Shae Connor

Shae Connor lives in Atlanta, where she’s a lackadaisical government worker for a living and writes sweet-hot romance under the cover of night. She’s been making things up for as long as she can remember, but it took her a long time to figure out that maybe she should try writing them down. She’s conned several companies into publishing her work and adds a new notch on her bedpost each time another story is unleashed onto an unsuspecting universe.

A member of the Romance Writers of America and the Rainbow Writers chapter, Shae was first published in 2010 and has a lineup of short stories, novellas, and novels available from Dreamspinner Press, Wilde City Press, MLR Press, and Amber Allure.

Shae is part Jersey, part Irish, and all Southern, which explains why she never shuts up. When she’s not chained to her laptop, she enjoys cooking, traveling, watching baseball, and reading voraciously, and she’s an annual volunteer for the Dragon Con on-site publication, the Daily Dragon. You can find her hanging out on Twitter most any time @shaeconnor, but for the more direct route, you can email her at or visit her website at

Farewell Giveaway
I have a number of paperbacks, most of which are signed, to giveaway. Over the between now (11 Mar 2017) and 31 Mar 2017, every comment on the blog (this post and all other new posts), will be entered to win 1 of these paperbacks. There are also some misc swag items, so there will be a few packs of these to give away as well.

Thank you so much for your support over the last 4 years. Prism will be closing its doors on 1 April 2017. All content will remain available, but no new content will appear after 31 Mar 2017. As such all request forms have been turned off. Again Thank you,

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